The Alchemy of Relationship

This course will explore how to use aromas to restore balance and resilience in relationships, both in your own life and with your clients. Relationships suffer from imbalances in ourselves, in our families of origin and in our communities and nature, and imbalanced relationship perpetuate imbalance in all these areas. Healing is restoring proper relationship.

What is the Sacred Marriage?
The alchemists called the ultimate alchemical stage, the reward of the challenging alchemical process the conjunctio, which is Latin for marriage.  The opportunity in relationship is to achieve this Sacred Marriage, the union of the ‘opposites’ out of which a new reality arises. The ‘goal’ of the alchemical process is the Conjunctio, the sacred marriage, but this is not a static end-point but a sign-post along the neverending path of growth and evolution. There’s a term that’s been going around, Twin Flames, which refers to two people that have a unique compatibility to achieve a Sacred Marriage. Yet the most important relationship is within ourselves. We will explore aromas that teach us about how to experience conjunctio within us, between our ego and soul and to create the sacred safe space, the sanctuary in our lives and relationships so the conjunctio can appear in our deep relationship.

Ancestral Healing
It is often said that we marry our mother or father. Family history echoes across the generations. We may engage in destructive relationship patterns without knowing why. We may be completely unaware that our relationship patterns can be echoes of what our parents and ancestors went through. Through our work, we learn how to unearth the transgenerational hidden or buried patterns and traumas so that we don’t unconsciously repeat and echo the past in our present relationships. We will work with aromas to contact our ancestors and gain more perspective on historical echoes, so we can transform them instead of repeating them.

Important Archetypes in this Work
There are several important archetypes and archetypal dynamics that we have to know to be able to step out of unconscious relationship patterns. These include the positive and negative archetypes of the Father, the archetypes of the Mother, including the Death Mother and the Dark Mother. We need to have an understanding of how our primal relationships, with our mother and father, shape our unconscious expectations of relationship. We also need to understand the Anima and Animus. There are also important archetypal dynamics are psychic incest, specialness and other unconscious programming that influences our ability to be in relationship.

We need to know about our Shadow, about how we constantly project our Shadow onto others, including our partners. We need to know about parents projecting their Shadow and their unlived lives onto their children and how this makes the child unable to become aware of who they really are and that they are not their parents’ projections.

We will work with aromas that will empower us to recognize and face these archetypes, so we can transform them from unconscious barriers into stepping tones for growth.

Intimacy and Barriers to Intimacy
Due to trauma, unconscious expectations and cultural pressure, many of us struggle with being able to be truly intimate with our partners, no matter how much we want to. We will discuss aromas and rituals to enhance and cultivate intimacy and overcome fear and barriers.